Anal Sex and Boundaries

I love my arse being filled by cock, by toys, by vegetables, by fingers, by random household objects … pretty much anything really. I love it so much I have discovered I can put my eight fingers into my arsehole at the same time. The only thing stopping them going in further is my lack of contortion abilities. There are many times I would rather have anal sex than vaginal sex. I rarely masturbate without shoving something up my butthole.

None of this is considered strange in the kinky world, not that all kinksters like arseplay, but it is accepted as fairly normal.

So is rimming. I like tongue up my arse. I like to put my tongue in arseholes.

You know what else I like? Filth. Yep. I admit it. One of the sexiest things my most recent Dom made me do was fuck myself with a carrot and eat the carrot, complete with whatever was stuck to it at the time. As any of you who’ve had anal sex can attest, cocks and toys tend to come out mostly clean…but that “mostly” rather than “totally” is enough to put many (most?) folk off eating the carrot. Or sucking their partner’s cock. Or licking their fingers.

Then there are those folk who don’t like anal play at all. My husband is one of these. As this blog makes clear, my hubby is not a sexually liberated chappy. He is wonderful and lovely and a truly awesome bloke, but he struggles with sex. He is ok with me being kinky, but he wants very little of it. Recently though, he has been experimenting more. He has given me a gentle spanking a couple of times. He has fucked me with the end of a spoon while I sat in the kitchen counter. He even tied me up. It is amazingly hot having someone choose to break their own boundaries and enjoy it. I can understand why some Doms get their kicks breaking in newbies. The years of bad sex were worth living through for the excitement I felt when he discovered his boundaries were flexible. The one fairly basic thing (is anal vanilla?) he won’t budge on, is putting any part of his body near my arsehole (or vice versa). He just isn’t into it. It is hard having one of your favorite things in the sexual world being denied you.

I often wonder how much my kinky desires and my polyamory are connected. I have often wondered whether I am not really polyamorous, just in need of kinky sex. Then I remember I just cannot have sex with people I don’t know well, I don’t trust, and don’t care deeply for. The BDSM/kinky scene just isn’t for me. But, there is always hope I can find a poly partner who will do the things to me that I crave, and who hubby will be happy for him to do those things to me. And, besides, just because hubby won’t fuck my arse with his cock, it doesn’t mean he won’t fuck it with a toy…it took him ten years to do, but he loves to do it now! Maybe in another ten he might let his finger go there. Keep those pubes crossed for me.